Trigger Warning: Everyone Is Suffering From Something

Instead of competing and blame-shifting let’s start giving

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All that remained after Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth’s home burned in the 2018 Malibu fires. All rights © Liam Hemsworth.
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Colby Farm, Newbury, US. All rights © Derek Thompson
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“In a pinch? Happy to help! Overpacked your life? Time to adjust your world.”

When you’re trying to ask for help, please don’t imply that your suffering is greater than someone else’s and they are therefore morally obliged to help you. Stop competing. Stop saying things like “you have no idea.” Your reader very likely does. Don’t alienate them by trying to one-up them because you’re shaming them for not proactively intuiting your needs. Just ask for help because it would help you not because those around you are morally bereft if they don’t. What if you scheduled a time when you could both work on lasagnas together? What if you combined forces to divide the labor instead of hoping for free deliveries?

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